Wealth, Status and Personality... oh my!

The article by Thundercat...

Everyone has an insecurity they have that makes them think they are unattractive. Even SHB10s have this problem. Guys see a HB9 and their attraction mechanisms spark in their head like crazy, men are visually natured. Because men are visually natured this makes us very critical of our appearance. We always think there is something on us that is making us feel we are ugly... I believe women do this too, but hide it much better. In fact I know they do, thats why they spend hours buying 1 pair of jeans. We get so in our own heads (I do atleast) that we are too this and that and we feel unworthy of the attention from the HBs. So, that is something we can work on together.

If the above paragraph were true, then no one would be able to attract women at all and the human race would not exist. Think about it, there would be too much doubt. Women in this day and age want a strong confident man, and if they are making babies with one that isn't their replication value took over, which is desire less for a woman and she will be unhappy in that relationship and will probably cheat.

From now on, look at couple when you are out. Say to yourself, do you think that guy's looks are worthy of that girls he is with? Most of the time, here I would say that is true, at a university. But, in the "real world" where you need "real game" not social circles... I doubt it. You'll see 8's and 9's with 3-6's guys. Thats just the way it works. Why will you see ugly ass guys with hot women? Because men are visually natured. For men, beauty is the exception not the standard. We don't have to be HB10s to attract them!!! There is clearly a deeper factor... but what is it? What can we rely on as men?

Women are attracted to men mainly for these three reasons; Wealth, Social Status and Personality.

Wealth, this shows women that men can provide the "provider" status. That is a sure fire way to get attention from an HB.... but... what woman or even human being doesn't LOVE being pampered? For nothing... maybe an accasional fuck on the side? Well, women love to fuck more than men so it's win-win for the HB. Now, I see why you see ugly ass AFCs with HB9/10 wives... damn. The problem with this is though... Not every PUA is rich. So, this is a unique trait to have, wealth. Don't be an ATM machine for women. HBs will think you are "buying" your way into a lay, and you won't have a spine if you are a provider for an HB when you are really poor.

Social Status... all you need to get laid over and over again in college, thanks to fraternities and athletic parties. What is status? You could say status is an important job, you are famous some how, all the respect you get from your peers, throwing a kick ass party, being in-field and talking to everyone and *bed room eyes*. If you have status, you have attraction... because you are naturally attractive because women pick up on social hierarchies. The hard part is conveying this effectively. They have to sense it... like the force. Not everyone has high status, in fact very few people do. So how do these medium to low status people still get lays???

PERSONALITY.

Personality, think about it. The thing about personality is that anyone can use it to attract a woman. The great thing about personality is, it doesn't cost a thing and it doesn't matter what your social circle is like. Having an attractive personality is the best way for a man to get an HB interested in him. Be able to make a woman laugh, that will turn her on more than being a big guy with big 'ol muscles. Personality is something that takes time but can be developed to make yourself anything you want to be. It is amazing how "losers" can become "rockstars" (Style). It is also amazing how losers can become rockstars all the sudden in the eyes of their friends with the help of women tweaking their personality just a little bit.

Women are SLAVES TO EMOTION. Your PERSONALITY is the METHOD by which you trigger EMOTIONS inside of a WOMAN. The better your personality, the better you're able to make a woman feel.

How do we achieve this? Work on your confidence. The more confident you are, the more confident you are in your self, and the better you will convey your personality... which will be used to attract women. Work on your social skills, this will help you be more relaxed and fun around women, and this time will create new opportunities to ignite attraction. Also, being more confident will make you more relaxed in social situations because you will appear as if you have been there before. Then, make a strong emotional connection to a woman because it is the best way to get a woman emotionally attached to you.

Personality...

It's a sad fact of life that everyone out there has some type of insecurity that makes them feel "unattractive." Even the most beautiful women in the world have stuff about them that makes them feel ugly at times.

For men - their visual nature can often times make them very critical of their own appearance. There is always something that makes us feel as though we are ugly.

Maybe it's the fact that we are too short, or fat, or bald, or old? There are any number of factors that make us feel "unworthy" of the attentions of beautiful women.

But if that was the case - no one would ever be able to attract a woman at all!

In fact, the next time you're out, take a mental note of every guy you see with an attractive girl, and try and appraise whether or not you think that guy's looks are worthy of the girl he's with.

Sure, sometimes you'll find a guy who's with a girl and they are both fine credits to their species. But most of the time, what you'll find is the guys with really hot and appealing women range from "average" to "ugly" in the looks department.

That's because beauty - in men - is the exception, not the standard.

But more than that, men rely on factors OTHER than their looks to help attract the kinds of women they want to them.

There are three major factors that most men try and utilize to the best of their ability when attracting new and exciting women to them. They are:

1. Wealth

2. Social Status

3. Personality

Let's go through these one at a time...

The first factor men use to attract the opposite sex is their wealth, or finances. Proving one's "provider" status to women is a sure fire way to get female attention. After all, what woman DOESN'T want to be pampered?

However, there is a big problem with this tactic. First of all, not everyone is rich or wealthy, so this factor is reserved for the few that are. More than that, women often feel like you're trying to "bribe" or "impress" them with your wealth, and because of that, they will treat you more like an ATM machine with feet, rather than a loving, caring, mate.

Keep in mind that there is nothing wrong with using financial success to draw women into you. But unless you have the money in the bank to do so, you can't rely on this method to get you a good woman.

The second factor is social status. Women are very attuned to the social hierarchy of things, so having a "high status" around women definitely makes any man more attractive.

This status comes from holding a certain position of power. It could be an important job, some type of fame, or just the esteem of your peers.

However, one of the difficulties with this is that you need to be able to display social status. You can't just tell someone "I'm a very important person" and have them believe it. They have to get a sense of it themselves, and sometimes your situation is not conducive to communicating this (like meeting a woman on the street for instance. She has no idea who you are!).

Also - not everyone has a high social status. Some people are content with maintaining a medium to low level status. Where does that leave these people?

With the THIRD factor - that of Personality. The thing I like about personality is that it's something EVERYONE can use to attract the kind of women they desire, and it doesn't matter how much money you make or what your social situation is like.

Having an attractive personality is the best way for "average" or "unattractive" men to get women interested in them. Being able to make a woman laugh will turn her on more than a guy with big muscles and a full head of hair.

Understand that women are slaves to their emotions, and your personality is the method by which you trigger emotions inside a woman!

The better your personality, the better you're able to make a woman feel.

And your personality is something that can be changed and cultivated over time. You can make yourself into anything you want to be! It's truly amazing how some "losers" can become "rockstars" in the eyes of their friends and the women they like just by tweaking their personality a little bit.

So how do you do this?

The first step is to really work on your confidence. The more confident you are, the better you're able to display your personality.

Working on your social skills will also help you to be relaxed and have fun around women. This will create new opportunities for attraction.

And learning how to create strong emotional bonds is also the best way there is to get a woman emotionally attached to you.

When you use these three techniques, you'll be able to gain the fancy of any woman you wish - no matter WHAT you look like.

I will elaborate on this tomorrow...

This blog will mostly be me elaborating on other PUA's posts because I am still an AFC... but this blog will also serve to aspiring AFCs as a good source of information! I will also post my theories on Instinct in the new future, which I have been developing for awhile.

The Beginning

Thanks to a couple people... whose names will be unknown, I decided to keep a blog of my "pickup" adventures, theories, ideas, guidelines, reviews of material, musical things, workout routines, "How to Spot a Hoe", etc.

Lots of articles to come.